Life with 4 kids 6 and under. Our trip to pick up Tonito in China is: mid-March 2008 through April 12. Our trips to pick up Ricky in Ethiopia are in June and August of 2010.

Sunday, September 7, 2008

40th Birthday

What a sunny, beautiful day for a birthday party! My cousin celebrated his birthday at a beautiful park preserve and we all got to spend the day by the lake, kicking the ball around, fishing, dancing, having a barbecue and eating ice cream with our family. It was so relaxing and fun to walk around the lake with the kids, and spend the afternoon with everyone while enjoying the weather! I love my family so much!!! We are moving in less than a month and I am going to miss these huge family parties incredibly:(. The kids always have so much fun, and we love to get together with everyone. I hope we have a lot of visitors in our new house!!!:)

Tonito definitely is not scared to go by anyone, quite the contrary. In adoptive families, parents wonder if their child is bonding with them, hope that they are attaching with their child, etc. Ironically, when the child goes easily to strangers it actually could be the opposite of healthy attachment. As an adoptive parent (or really any parent) you want your child to prefer you over strangers, and be a little wary/scared of people they aren't so familiar with because it means they understand that you are the primary caregiver, they feel safe with you, they know you will always be there for them, and they know that you love them more than anyone else in the world. What's counterintuitive for some is that when a little kid willingly gives hugs and kisses to everyone, even strangers, some think it is "cute" and "charming--" when really adoptive parents are familiar with the idea that this could signal a problem with attachment. So it's hard for me to see that Tonito will go and hug anyone- and a small success when he falls and gets an owie and comes running just to me.
Here are some pictures of the party:)-

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